faithfulness is when i realize there are two women in the world and begin to entirely ignore the second, investing instead all my time and energy and attention and affection and concern and myself in you and your happiness and sacrificing myself as often as necessary to try to assure you of your value...this also applies to my hobbies and my friends and my interests and my comfort and my privacy and my desires and everything else that is me, all becomes subservient to my Lord and to you

without the two of you there is no more me, either before or after